Archive for February, 2012

So you like being a firefighter?

Monday, February 27th, 2012

If you’re paid to be a firefighter, then it’s fine to spend all day fighting fires.
But if you’re actually paid to plan strategies, define goals and objectives, think of ways to improve how you operate, and provide coaching and support so people around you grow and develop – then what on earth are you [...]

Manage your stress level – say no

Friday, February 17th, 2012

The year has only just started and already we’re in burnout. The memory of the holidays is long gone. E-mails are streaming through in their hundreds; meetings are stacked up back to back; the school term is well under way; social activities are going non-stop and you’ve started planning for Easter!
It’s no wonder your stress [...]

When we talk about needing space, setting limits or agreeing on what is acceptable behavior, we are referring to personal boundaries. When you have boundaries in place you don’t tolerate abuse or disrespect from others and you don’t take on the problems that belong to them. You know who you are and you treat yourself [...]

How to say no

Friday, February 3rd, 2012

Learning how to say no is one of the best ways to reduce your stress level. Use it to protect your personal time and resources, and to avoid the resentment you feel when you allow yourself to be pushed into saying yes. Learn it and use it.
Think how you feel when you agree to do [...]

How often do you say yes when you mean no?

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

We say yes when we really want to say no because we fear that others will criticise us for being selfish, uncaring or unhelpful. We say yes to hold onto the illusion that we can be there for everyone, the dependable fall-back in every crisis, the perfect employee, perfect friend and perfect partner. We say [...]