Archive for the 'Resilience' Category

Become more resilient: manage upward

Monday, February 7th, 2011

Speaking up to anyone in authority can be difficult and high risk. If you get it wrong, it could be career limiting. But it may be the only way to remove feelings of frustration and dis-empowerment at work and can be a powerful way to increase your resilience.
One of the conversations that most people avoid is asking [...]

Become more resilient: learn to accept feedback

Wednesday, February 2nd, 2011

The old saying that ‘practice makes perfect’ is inaccurate. The only way to do things better is to obtain feedback. This holds true whether you’re trying to play better golf or improve your performance at work. Using feedback effectively is a key element in building up resilience.
Everyone needs both positive and negative feedback. Unfortunately, our [...]

Become more resilient: re-frame the problem

Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

You can choose how you look at things. You can say: I failed.  Or you can say: I did not pass this time. You can say: losing my job was the worst thing that could happen to me. Or you can say: losing my job gives me the chance to start my own business.
Re-framing your [...]

Become more resilient: change your state

Tuesday, January 25th, 2011

When you get into a negative state, like the way you feel after a bad sales call, or a disagreement with someone you love, you feel depressed, miserable and without energy. When you know how to put yourself into a positive state you can bounce back with energy and resilience.
1. Make a physical change
If you [...]

Become more resilient: focus on what works

Thursday, January 20th, 2011

When the going gets tough and you have lost your bounce, it is easy to think only of what is difficult and what is going wrong. Resilient people have learned to focus on positive thoughts to build up their self esteem and energy. It doesn’t mean being unrealistic or denying reality. It just means you cope better.
Here [...]

Toxic people are those whose attitudes and behaviour poison the environment. They blame, complain and criticise, put people down, and infect everyone with their pessimism, negativity and bad humour. Some moan about anyone they see as more successful than they are; some are angry; others are bullies who dominate and humiliate anyone they see as [...]

Become more resilient: change your thinking

Thursday, January 13th, 2011

Positive thinking is an assumption or mental attitude that expects successful outcomes and good results. It puts you in a better position to tackle whatever is coming at you. Negative thinking is also an assumption but it is debilitating and depressing.  It drains your energy and that of everyone around you. You can choose whether [...]

Another year! How are you going to find the energy to get through another one?
Resilience is the ability to keep going even when you have change and challenge in your life and you’re finding it tough. Resilience is about behaviour, not character or personality. That means you can learn to do it. An important thing [...]

Conversational styles that don’t work

Thursday, November 8th, 2007

It’s fascinating how much one can learn about people and the culture of their organisations by listening to the conversations they hold.
There’s the manager who has been around for a while, knows his job and can see a mistake at ten paces. His conversations are short, sharp and one way. Don’t look to him for [...]