Archive for the 'Self development' Category

Soft skills matter

Tuesday, January 29th, 2013

A recent article in the Bloomberg Business Week emphasises – again – that it’s soft skills which determine your long term career success.
Roxanne Hori, the associate dean of corporate partnerships at Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management advises students planning their MBA classes to take as many soft skills subjects as they do hard [...]

Maybe you should be back at school

Friday, January 18th, 2013

I’ve been watching school children this morning on their way to the first day of term, thinking of all the things they’ll learn and all the questions they’ll ask as they grow up.
We ask them questions.
‘What did you do today?’
‘What did you learn today?’
’What do you want to be when you grow up?’
Have [...]

I’m really sorry

Friday, June 8th, 2012

We often react to our mistakes by blaming and accusing others, rather than by acknowledging what we’ve said or done and apologising. A sincere apology can prevent the emotional wake you leave behind, doing harm to others.
We often react to our mistakes by blaming and accusing others, rather than by acknowledging what we’ve said or [...]

Manage your stress level – say no

Friday, February 17th, 2012

The year has only just started and already we’re in burnout. The memory of the holidays is long gone. E-mails are streaming through in their hundreds; meetings are stacked up back to back; the school term is well under way; social activities are going non-stop and you’ve started planning for Easter!
It’s no wonder your stress [...]

When we talk about needing space, setting limits or agreeing on what is acceptable behavior, we are referring to personal boundaries. When you have boundaries in place you don’t tolerate abuse or disrespect from others and you don’t take on the problems that belong to them. You know who you are and you treat yourself [...]

How to say no

Friday, February 3rd, 2012

Learning how to say no is one of the best ways to reduce your stress level. Use it to protect your personal time and resources, and to avoid the resentment you feel when you allow yourself to be pushed into saying yes. Learn it and use it.
Think how you feel when you agree to do [...]

How often do you say yes when you mean no?

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

We say yes when we really want to say no because we fear that others will criticise us for being selfish, uncaring or unhelpful. We say yes to hold onto the illusion that we can be there for everyone, the dependable fall-back in every crisis, the perfect employee, perfect friend and perfect partner. We say [...]

Essential characteristics of good leaders

Friday, September 16th, 2011

This is the fifth of the blog posts based on the top ten most read Straight Talk Tips that go to my clients each month. The tips are free and you can sign up for them here
Essential characteristics of good leaders
From ancient philosophers to modern scholars and consultants, we have been obsessed with finding out what [...]

Moving Targets

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011

This is the first of the blog posts based on the top ten most read Straight Talk Tips that go to my clients each month. The tips are free and you can sign up for them here
Moving targets re-title: How to set realistic objectives
Conventional wisdom holds that when you want people to perform at their [...]

A performance appraisal interview is, in many ways, far more important for an employee than it is for a manager. It is essential that you prepare for your performance appraisals carefully and handle them skilfully.
A good performance appraisal can enhance your reputation and accelerate or change the direction of your career. An interview that goes [...]