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No, it's another train. We don't know how long our current troubles will last, if they will get worse before they start to get better, or how badly each of us will be affected. The immediate problem for everyone is the same. How do I cope?
At present one hears a lot of "Isn't it terrible!" conversations. They reflect the way many people are feeling about current events; anxious, uncertain, fearful and stressed. While these conversations help us share our miseries, they don't help us cope with the realities, and we often end up feeling even more depressed and defeatist.
What happened to resilience? Of its many definitions, one of the best is, “the quality of being springy”. How springy are you? If you can talk yourself into misery you can talk yourself out of it too. So how do resilient people talk?
Their conversations reflect positive thinking. They decide not to be victims. They say, "I can.. I choose...I'll do it". You never hear them say, "I can't...I have to...They made me..."
They stick to facts. Facts are neutral. When we put forward our feelings and opinions as facts, conversations take on an emotional tone and the possibility of rational thought and decision making disappears.
They have the right conversations. They know that you can't make problems disappear by ignoring them. They identify the key issues and step up to the right conversations, no matter how tricky, with the right people, no matter how difficult.
They know they don't know. They don't assume they have all the answers or that they are right. They make conversations safe for others to share their information, opinions and feelings. They face reality, obtain commitment to decisions and get things done.
Go talk up a storm. Get your bounce back!
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