It's all very well saying 'Get your bounce back', but if you've really lost it, where do you start? You could try getting yourself into a good physical space, build up your energy, eat right, sleep right, exercise ... you know the drill. If it was so easy, everyone would be doing it! Alternatively, you could start to acquire personal mastery over the host of resilience competencies that you see in the self help magazines. But as we all know, personal development can take a lifetime. Then there's the more philosophical approach in which you develop a personal vision and imbue your life with a sense of purpose. And that could take two lifetimes!

Interested in an easier alternative? You want something that will give you more immediate results? Then listen in to how you talk and start talking differently!

If most of your sentences start with the word 'I', stop talking! Try asking questions. Find out what others think. If you feel brave, ask them how they feel! Broaden your perspective. Become more approachable.  Your relationships will improve, you'll feel more support from others, and it will become easier to bounce.

When things aren't going well, you will hear the word 'You' over and over. That shows you're blaming and accusing. It's not the best way to get to the bottom of a problem and never the way to obtain support for a solution.

When you talk as if 'they' are the problem, and that 'they' need to change their attitude, you are talking like a victim. That disempowers you, leaving you helpless on the sidelines. Instead, talk about what you can do and what you can influence.

Three little words! Change how you use them and see what a difference they make to the way you bounce.